Perchè è così difficile tollerare l'ambiguità, l'incertezza, doubt, the unknown? We are not alone, even the animals prefer the known and predictable situations, even unpleasant ones. For example, laboratory rats exposed to shock random prefer a lever to change the frequency of random rules, although the number of shocks remains the same.
Kelly G. Wilson explained the reason for this attitude in the book "Mindfulness for Two" (2008, New Harbinger Publications, Inc.) tells the story of the bear and blackberry bushes.
Two prehistoric hominids, exiting the cave, they see a shadow in the savannah. One of they say "Run, is a bear!" the other replies, "But no, it's more of a bush." While the more cautious withdraws into the cave, his partner is more of a feast in the evening and proudly recounts his adventure to other cavemen. The next day, history repeats itself, the prudent man falls into the cave and the other eats more, and so day after day. Until, one evening, the caveman swagger missing e. .. will never return. So his mate takes over the assets of the unfortunate, takes his bat, the skin of the mammoth and his female.
Kelly Wilson says: "We are the children, children, children of what is saved escaping into the cave. "Natural selection has favored the gift of prudence. For this reason, we interpret uncertain or ambiguous situation as dangerous.
We would, at all costs, you know, be safe, know the future. We get a ' countless questions about what will happen, what will tomorrow, as we will, if we do this or that, etc.., unanswered questions that often do nothing but bring suffering, torment and anxiety ....
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